20 things moms don’t need to feel guilty about

By | May 14, 2012 | Motherhood & Family

20 things moms don’t need to feel guilty about
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Ugh. Mommy guilt. Will it ever go away? Here’s the scoop about guilt. Guilt reinforces this idea that who we are as Moms is not okay. It diminishes our self-confidence and self-respect. Guilt makes you feel like you are undeserving and it holds you back from being who you were created to be. Besides, it starts this vicious cycle of guilt that is hard to break. I’m giving you 20 things you definitely don’t need to feel guilty about. Now that’s a whole lot of guilt you can say good-bye to!

  1. You don’t need to feel guilty about not being able to afford to buy your child the latest designer clothes or technological gadgets. Too much material stuff spoils your children anyway.
  2. You don’t need to feel guilty about getting your child a McDonald’s Happy Meal because you are rushed for time or you don’t feel like cooking. An occasional Happy Meal makes your child (and you) happy!
  3. You don’t need to feel guilty about feeling frustrated because you have heard the word “Mom” 1000 times in one day. Moms don’t have an endless supply of emotional availability.
  4. You don’t need to feel guilty about giving your husband peanut butter and jelly sex (5 minutes). Kids have been pawing at your body all day.
  5. You don’t need to feel guilty about not being the Christmas party host Mom because you’d rather work out. A Mom that gets exercise feels better about herself, and you will be a better Mom when your kids are home.
  6. You don’t need to feel guilty because your kids are not playing travel sports or involved in multiple extracurricular activities. Home is where the love is at anyway.
  7. You don’t need to feel guilty because you are a working Mom or a stay at home Mom. There are all kinds of Moms and all of you love your children.
  8. You don’t need to feel guilty because you’re not a perfect Mom. Many spiritual experts would say everyone is already perfect, so that is one expert opinion you can hang your hat on.
  9. You don’t need to feel guilty because you miss your child’s dance recital. You will be present for most of her activities and that is what she will remember.
  10. You don’t need to feel guilty because you decide to take a nap instead of cleaning the house. A rested Mom is more productive, so you’ll clean twice as fast when you do clean.
  11. You don’t need to feel guilty because today you’d rather be hanging out with your girlfriends than playing monster trucks. Our girlfriends ground us and help us stay connected to the women we were before we had kids.
  12. You don’t need to feel guilty because you spend more time with one child than the other. All children of different ages and stages have different needs for attention. Plus it’s quality that matters most.
  13. You don’t need to feel guilty for letting your child watch TV while you check out what’s happening on Facebook or Twitter. Both of you are enjoying yourself, right? Neither one of you are going to spend the next four hours glued to the screen (or at least you shouldn’t!).
  14. You don’t need to feel guilty because you want to sleep in on Sunday. Dad and the kids need some special bonding time without Mom.
  15. You don’t need to feel guilty because you are sick and you do absolutely nothing all day. Moms have limits too. And this gives the rest of your family an opportunity to practice their nurturing skills.
  16. You don’t need to feel guilty because you take a day off work just to spend the day with your child. Other people take days off work, so why can’t you?
  17. You don’t have to feel guilty if you cry in front of your children. It shows your children that you have feelings too and helps them learn empathy.
  18. You don’t have to feel guilty if the house is not perfectly clean. Just make up a sign that says “My house is never clean, but I have the love and joy of children.”
  19. You don’t have to feel guilty because you lose your temper with your children sometimes. It shows them that everyone makes mistakes and gives you an opportunity to teach them how to say ‘sorry.’
  20. You don’t have to feel guilty for pursuing your own personal interests. It’s not healthy for you or your kids to revolve your whole world around them 100% of the time.

What’s one thing you’ve learned not to feel guilty about?

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Lori Radun

Lori Radun is a Family Success Specialist and founder of the website Momnificent! Her mission is to help moms raise magnificent kids – who are responsible, resilient and respectful. She offers resources and programs for moms who desire happy and healthy families – physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. Lori believes patience is central to all good parenting and offers a free eBook that teaches seven secrets to having more patience with your children. You can download that free eBook at www.patiencewithchildren.com.

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M1ssM3lanch0ly
M1ssM3lanch0ly

I feel guilty about not having taken a day off of work to spend it with my child. 

Tmer
Tmer

This is great but i DO think a person should feel guilty about letting their child have McDonalds... poison is never ok. I'd rather give my child healthy packaged snacks (than fast food garbage) - like a clif zbar and a gogo applesauce pouch... and it's faster than drive thru!

EricaVoll
EricaVoll

Amen! I especially love the part about sleeping in. Bonding is good too!

LifeWithoutPink
LifeWithoutPink

Love this post! I know I feel guilty no matter what I do - so I'm glad to read this post :)

familiesgo
familiesgo

When I'm lying on my deathbed I might regret not ice skating, doing yoga, traveling, playing pretend games, reading, going to the theater or mounting climbing more, I might regret not doing more with my career, spending more time with girl friends, husband, child, family and so on. I might regret not learning to cook better. I know i will NOT wish that i'd spent more time cleaning.  If there is a more appealing option, I always take it. :-)

laurenyoungnyc
laurenyoungnyc

I agree with all of this except McDonalds. That stuff is horrible, really. Don't feed it to your children. Buy a yogurt or a banana or have a bowl of plain spaghetti with butter -- your child will love all of those just as much as a Happy Meal.

LianaPreble
LianaPreble

Totally agree!!!!!! Wonderful article!!! -Liana

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